Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Jun 21, 2011

Principle as Love?

 Have you ever thought of Principle as Love?   Yes, and harmony too!


This has been a difficult concept for me to wrap my head around.  Principle is strong, tough, laws and rules, isn't it?  How can it also be Love?

 Well, here's what I've been thinking about.  The red light, when people pay attention, keeps crashes from happening.  It allows an orderly flow of traffic to go forward.  There's a sense of justice, or fairness, because everyone gets their turn.  A red light may be no-nonsense, but it is also an expression of Love keeping everyone safe.
Red keeps right ideas where they belong.  No colliding!



Yellow gives a heads-up on change coming







A yellow light warns drivers that their plans are

May 24, 2011

Can you love without an object?

There is a difference, you know.  Between "unselfish" and "unselfed."

Until recently, I’d pretty much considered those two terms synonymous. 

If you think about it, unselfish love can be ego-tinged.  “I am unselfishly giving up my day off to help my neighbor.”  “I am unselfishly doing this or that good deed.”  

Unselfed love is love without self.  It is divine Love expressing itself.

Unselfed love is having no will of my own, but always, ‘Thy will be done.”  Always, "What can I do next for you and your children, dear Father-Mother?”  

Mother love is unselfish, and this mom has several fuzzy
"objects" for her love!

Here are some observations from Mary Baker Eddy, 19th Century religious thinker and healer. 
  • Unselfed love doesn’t take offense.
  • Unselfed love lives the might of goodness for all mankind. 
  • It builds in our hearts a temple to worship God
  • Rejoices in the good of others
  • It keeps us in the Christian life
Most amazingly, unselfed love doesn’t require an object.  It just loves.  As the sun just shines, genuine Love just loves.

Dec 28, 2010

A time to walk

Cuddle time

Chevy is a hopeless cuddler.  He cannot grasp that he's too big.  An equal opportunity pal, he is sure any lap will do, especially if it's on the couch.

Feeling secure is comforting.  I can remember as a child, falling asleep in the family car on the way home from one place or another.  My dad's strong arms would gather me up, carry me into the house, and plunk me gently on my bed.  Mom would tuck me in.  I felt so safe. 

How disappointing to reach a size when instead of carrying me into the house, my parents would wake me up to groggily walk in with them -- on my own two feet.  Probably there was a guiding hand on my shoulder to keep me from bumping into anything.

I was no less safe -- just assuming a little responsibility which took a little more effort.

I think our relationship with God is like that.  Sometimes She carries us tenderly, strongly, in Her arms (as it were).  As we grow in our ability to serve, She sets us on our feet, to discover we can walk on our own.  

Spiritual strength, spiritual listening, a desire to give meaning to our lives helps us find that security and comfort in unselfish service.  At least I haven't found any other way.

Chevy may never outgrow his need for being embraced.  Yet you and I can find some degree of spiritual cuddling (hmm, interesting phrase) as we remember to let our Maker guide us in tangible and meaningful ways, for the sole purpose of helping others find safety and peace in their own relationships to their Maker.

Nov 4, 2010

Love isn't what we're in, it's something that we do

 Truly spoken.  This simple song takes love -- in marriage and every other relationship -- to a higher level.  Beyond, "What's in it for me?" to "What can I give to this relationship to keep it healthy and beautiful?"


One of the cool things about the Internet is that you can develop a network of like-minded friends, and you share ideas pretty freely.  Kate Robertson found Clint Black first.  If you would like to read her thoughts about these lyrics, click here. 

Oct 25, 2010

Wild Bill's story

There’s a revealing account in a book called “Return from tomorrow,” by George C. Ritchie.  The hero was nicknamed Wild Bill because of the shape of his drooping mustache.  Wild Bill accomplished unselfed love through a conscious decision to forgive his enemies.  Here are some excerpts from that story as recorded by Mr. Ritchie.

 ‘He was one of the inmates of the concentration camp, but obviously he hadn’t been there long: his posture was erect, his eyes bright, his energy indefatigable.  Since he was fluent in English, French, German and Russian, as well as Polish, he became a kind of unofficial camp translator.

‘We came to him with all sorts of problems . . . . But though Wild Bill worked fifteen and sixteen hours a day, he showed no signs of weariness.  While the rest of us were drooping with fatigue, he seemed to gain strength. . . . . his compassion for his fellow-prisoners glowed on his face, and it was to this glow that I came when my own spirits were low. . . 

‘So I was astonished to learn. . . that he had been in Wuppertal since 1939!  For six years he had lived on the same starvation diet, slept in the same airless and disease-ridden barracks as everyone else, but without the least physical or mental deterioration.

‘Perhaps even more amazing, every group in the camp looked on him as a friend.  He was the one to whom quarrels between inmates were brought for arbitration. . . 

‘It’s not easy for some of them to forgive,’ I commented to him one day. . .  ‘So many of them have lost members of their families.’

‘Wild Bill leaned back in the upright chair and sipped at his drink.  “We lived in the Jewish section of Warsaw,” he began slowly, the first words I had heard him speak about himself, “my wife, our two daughters, and our three little boys.  When the Germans reached our street they lined everyone against a wall and opened up with machine guns.  I begged to be allowed to die with my family, but because I spoke German they put me in a work group.

. . . “I had to decide right then,” he continued, “whether to let myself hate the soldiers who had done this.  It was an easy decision, really.  I was a lawyer.  In my practice I had seen too often what hate could do to people’s minds and bodies.  Hate had just killed the six people who mattered most to me in the world.  I decided then that I would spend the rest of my life – whether it was a few days or many years – loving every person I came in contact with.” ’

It's very humbling to ask, "Would I be able to make that decision to remove hate from my life -- by loving every person -- even those who had murdered my children in front of  my eyes?"  This is what Christians of all stripes profess.  Yet Wild Bill was a Jew - and understood exactly the demand Life was making on him.  To not hate.   To live, to truly live and to live truly, he would love.

Sep 12, 2010

If God's love is unconditional, then . . .

My grandson spent the night last night.  He was worn out, he said, from the previous Scout overnight, and would just like to chill.  So we chilled.  

We had macaroni for lunch, watched a good family film.  At dinner after he had said his grace, I took his hand and thanked God out loud for our special time together; and appreciated out loud some nice things about the boy.  As I look up after the Amen, he had a sweet smile of self-discovery.  Later we went for a walk in the neighborhood, and then he worked on his homework.

He asked a question about Jesus that came straight from his faith background - which I simply turned back to him, “What do you think?”  His answer told me he was wrestling with whether or not the Bible was valid.  At the wise age of 11 he has concluded, so far, that it is.

As he was ready to fall asleep, I reopened the Jesus subject with these ideas.  “Among Christian religions there are different opinions about Jesus.  Some believe he is God; and some believe he is the Son of God.  The important thing is that God is always with us, loving us.  And Jesus came to show us how to be good and do good.  And besides that, God loves us unconditionally.”

His eyebrows shot up, so I continued, “There is nothing you or I could do to ever make God love us less.”


One of life's many great journeys
Then the forever question, “What about Hitler?”  He was also asking, unspoken, “What about evil people?  Does God love them?  Does God allow evil?” 

“I think God does not like evil.  But he gives people good and useful ideas to stop evil things from happening.  But we have to act on these ideas.  We have to be willing to stop evil.”

Long silence as he thought on these things.  And just before he closed his eyes, “Grandma?"


"Yes?"

"Then we wouldn’t need a hell.”

“No,” I smiled. “We wouldn’t need a hell.”

May 19, 2009

"Love" defined by children

An email arrived with these gems defining "love" -- as children see it.



You want unconditional love?
Adopt a puppy!


"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss." Emily - age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 5

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate." Nikka - age 6

"When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more." Matthew - age 7

"There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them." Jenny - age 4

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." Cindy - age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - Age 5

"Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine - age 5

"Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 8

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren - age 4

"Love cards like Valentine's cards say stuff on them that we'd like to say ourselves, but we wouldn't be caught dead saying." Mike - age 8

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." Karen - age 7

"You really shouldn't say I love you, unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot." Jessica - age 8

Jul 14, 2008

Love, the great communicator

OK for all you animal lovers, here’s the best footage I’ve found so far of Christian the Lion.

The story is in the captions.

Even people to people, love and respect remains the best communicator.



Jul 10, 2008

Want to stay connected? Try love!

John Templeton was an philanthropist and a shrewd global investor.

In a tribute to this deeply spiritual man from Presbyterian roots, Gary Moore writes in tomorrow's The Christian Science Monitor, “John worked very intentionally to live the spiritual qualities he prized. And while he may have valued reason, prosperity, tradition, and spirituality, he gave top priority to love, the connecting force that holds us together despite our differences – even the largest ones.”

“Love, the connecting force that holds us together despite our differences.”

Don't you love it!


Families are often like that. Siblings and relatives can be totally unlike in their careers, marriage partners, life-styles, their worship, or non-worship. If they weren’t family, they would have little in common.

Yet when they come together for holidays or other gatherings, they come with love that finds expression in respect, appreciation, and warm affection.


And it's true. This kind of love transcends differences. It isn't critical, it doesn't gossip. It isn't resentful and doesn't hold grudges. It keeps busy doing good.

Love is an amazing universal connecting force that flows through generous hearts.




Apr 9, 2008

Lion hug

For you animal lovers, here’s a YouTube video.

The story says that a woman in Columbia found a lion cub, who was wounded and hungry. She took him home and raised him until he was too big. She then gave him to the local zoo, where she visits him every day.

The deep affection between them is clear.





American religious leader, Mary Baker Eddy, viewed animals from a spiritual perspective. She wrote, “Understanding the control which Love held over all, Daniel felt safe in the lions’ den, and Paul proved the viper to be harmless. All of God’s creatures, moving in the harmony of Science, are harmless, useful, indestructible.”

Nov 29, 2007

Hippo gratitude

It’s always thrilling to me to see limiting assumptions shattered by an occasional exception to the rule.

Especially when that exception springs from love.

Jessica and her family are one of those exceptions.

Click Here for video

Hope you enjoy this romp into the unexpected.

Nov 26, 2007

The Lord's Prayer -- different perspective

A daddy swan (called a cob)



Someone posed this question:

What would happen if we put “Dear Father” in front of every phrase in the Lord’s Prayer?

Would we think more deeply about that prayer?

Let's try it.



Dear "Father which art in heaven,"

Dear Father, "Hallowed be your name."

Dear Father, "Your kingdom come."

Dear Father, "Your will be done in earth, as it is in heaven."

Dear Father, "Give us this day our daily bread."

Dear Father, "forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors."

Dear Father, "lead us not into temptation,"

Dear Father, "deliver us from evil:"

Dear Father, "Yours is the kingdom,"

Dear Father, "Yours is the power,"

Dear Father, "Yours is the glory,"

Dear Father, "For ever."

Amen.

What then about Dear Mother?

or Dear ever-present Love?

or Dear forever Truth?

or Dear infinite Mind?

or Dear eternal Life?

What then?

Oct 24, 2007

Beauty of Math? For sure!

Somebody emailed this recently, and for fun and variety, you might enjoy it.

Beauty of Math!

1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321

1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111

9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888

Brilliant, isn't it?

And look at this symmetry:

1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 ! = 12 343 21
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111=12345678987654321


Now, think about 101%.

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint,
What Equals 100%? And what does it mean to give MORE than 100%?

Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?

We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100%.

How about ACHIEVING 101%?

Here's a fun little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:

If letters are represented as numbers:
a b c d e f g h i j k l m n o p q r s t u v w x y z

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.

So, if:
H-A-R-D-W-O-R- K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

And:
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%


But:
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F-G-O-D
12+15+22+5+15+6+7+15+4 = 101%

Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Hard Work and Know ledge will get you close,
and Attitude will get you there,
It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!

Have a nice day, & may you feel God’s love all around!!!


Aug 28, 2007

Tribute to a happy man

Dan with great granddaughter

My father-in-law passed peacefully away this morning. He’d lived a good and long life, survived two wonderful wives, is cherished by a third. He has three wonderful grown kids, grand-children and great grand-children. Dan was just going, as he phrased it a couple of days ago, “to walk into the next room.”

I’ve known Dan for forty years. He is one of the most consistently happy people I’ve ever met. The world doesn’t know what to do with happy people. It works hard to make them sad. He never took the bait. He kept his joy. Sometimes it took a bit of wrestling on his part to stay aligned with the good he believed was supreme in life, but he always rose to the occasion, and quickly.

He enjoyed a good joke. He was a careful and interesting story-teller. With a twinkle in his eye, he would relate an appropriate pun for the occasion, and chuckle at the groans from his audience. He loved people. He devoted the last 40 years to helping others find health, balance, stability, joy, peace – helping them feel the power of God’s love in their lives.

And, this is the big one – I never heard him say an unkind word about anyone. He lived Christ Jesus’ life message: to love one another.

He made the best of what life gave him, and he always felt life was giving him abundant good. He cherished family and friends alike.

With his perpetual joy, undaunted trust in the triumph of good, and genuine love for all God’s children, he set a great example of what it means to unconditionally love one’s fellow man.

He will definitely “Be in that number, when the saints go marching in”!

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Aug 26, 2007

Tender marriage of kindred hearts

I was privileged to be a guest at a very special wedding last week. Karen had been in my Sunday School class – years ago, it seems. Her beau, Ken, has done two tours in Iraq as a Marine. They are both in Military Chaplain training now, for the Army. The Army, it seems, is more family-friendly when assigning spouses, than are the Marines.

Rev. Dr. Julie Ruth Harley gave the best talk on marriage I’ve heard. She began with a joke. She has a couple in her congregation, she said, who have been married over 60 years, so she asked them, “What is the secret to a happy marriage?”

The husband replied, “The secret to a happy marriage is in two words,” long pause. (Those two words are,) "Yes, Dear.” Followed by much laughter.

Her talk focused on the give and take in marriage, the caring that permits compromise. Equal respect for both husband and wife. The love and attentiveness for one’s spouse that is not distracted by career, family, even children.

That when we say “Yes,” to wedding vows, we are saying “No” to other things. For instance, saying Yes to promising to honor one another, is saying “No” to any other intimate relationship.

When they were invited to kiss, Ken took Karen’s face gently in his hands and tenderly gave her a kiss.

The whole ceremony was tender, even the reception. When the maid of honor spoke of her friendship with Karen, she wept with emotion. When the groom’s sister spoke, her voice trembled with deep fondness for her brother and his new wife. When the bride’s brother spoke of his sister as an “amazing woman,” his voice halted; he teared up again as he praised his new brother-in-law. Most people were wiping their own eyes.

In Marine tradition, the Captain/husband (in dress uniform) sliced the wedding cake with his saber. They waltzed to “Edelweiss.” They actually knew how to waltz!

Maybe two tours in Iraq helps a man value a precious good woman when he finds her. Karen has the maturity to value her husband as deeply. We all wish them happiness and safety in their new lives together.

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Let the husband render unto the wife
due benevolence:
and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
Paul to the Corinthians (I Cor 7:3)


Matrimony should never be entered into
without a full recognition of its enduring obligations
on both sides.

Marriage should signify
a union of hearts

There should be the most tender solicitude
for each others happiness,
and mutual attention and approbation
should wait on all the years
of married life.
Mary Baker Eddy


Jul 17, 2007

What size is your puppy?

A friend sent an email called “Puppy size.”

"Puppy size" tells about a little girl who helps her parents understand hearts speaking. Her mom takes her to an animal shelter to find just the right puppy. The little girl knows she will recognize it by its puppy size. Week after week she cannot find the right puppy. Her patient, but exasperated, parents are clueless about why the little girl isn't selecting a puppy. Finally she finds the right puppy and is able to explain to her mom that the puppy sighed when it was in her arms.

All along she was looking for puppy sighs (not size). She knew the puppy loved her when his heart sighed in happiness.

Thus heart speaks to heart. How comfortable we feel in the presence of those who love and care about us. And how comfortable they feel when they can trust and lean on our love. It's a mutually giving and appreciating.

This love isn't selfish or possessive, doesn't have a hidden agenda. We're talking about an affection that's pure, honest, gentle, strong – all at once. The comfort the little girl and the puppy recognized was a genuine mutual caring that just snuggles in and trusts.

As I see it, this symbolizes the all-embracing love God has for each of us as His/Her children. Straight-forward, pure, honest, dependable, unconditional. That's a big one. Unconditional love. Knowing our own short-comings, we might object and say, "I'm just not worthy of that kind of love."

Yet there is something we can do to thank our Maker for the depth and strength of such love. We can love each other better – in the highest sense. We can look for opportunities to be kind, thoughtful, patient, caring – even in the middle of our busy days. Even when we are struggling with personal issues. In fact many people have found that spontaneously helping others breaks the mesmerism of feeling trapped in their own inner wrestlings.

We are worthy to be called the sons and daughters of God. And we have endless opportunity to show our thanks for such love.


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When the heart speaks,
however simple the words,
its language is always acceptable
to those who have hearts.
Mary Baker Eddy

Now I am giving you a new command --
love one another.
Just as I have loved you,
so you must love one another.
Christ Jesus
Phillips Modern English

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